Staying Fierce: Real Tips for Thriving in the Webcam Industry (part 1)

✨ Part 1: Boundaries, Burnout & Remembering Your Worth ✨

When you first start camming, nobody gives you a guide book.
And let’s say that they did give you one – do you really think it would include the emotional, mental and spiritual realities that come with putting yourself out there in this industry day after day?
I’m going to assume that we all said “No” in unison!

What happens is this…
You get thrown into the world of marketing, money, objectification, judgement, empowerment, hustle… and burnout. Massive burnout.
And in the middle of all of this chaos, it’s dangerously easy to forget that you’re not just a persona– you’re a human!

This post isn’t about boosting your audience, or “how to earn £10,000 in one week”.
It’s about staying grounded, centred and fierce – without losing your sense of self.

These are the things that I have been learning, and will continue to learn, in my fierce journey💜:

1. Boundaries are EVERYTHING
   
   Not only are setting boundaries overlooked in the SW industry, they are also overlooked in the everyday world. Setting boundaries that are true to you and your values, are one of the most important ways to protect yourself – mentally, emotionally and physically – and your energy.
   
   
   If your client says something that is offensive to you– block them.
   If your friend calls you whilst you’re sleeping– don’t answer.
   
   
   There are so many boundaries that can be set, and they are personal to us. You have to make sure that you’re setting time aside to check in with yourself.
   
   
   Try asking yourself these questions:
   
   What do I value in life?
   How do I want people to treat me?
   Is there anything that has happened recently that has made me feel uncomfortable?
   How can I gently communicate this feeling to others?
   
   
   The minute you sacrifice your boundaries for someone else’s comfort or approval is the minute resentment starts to bloom.
   You are the boss. Act like it – lovingly, fiercely, and consistently.
   
   
   
   
2. Your worth isn’t tied to your earnings
   
   I’ve had so many days where I’ve made absolutely nothing – ZILCH!
   I’ve even had days where I’ve lost money after positioning and other cam fees.
   But guess what?
   I’ve also had days where I’ve hit my financial goals. Sometimes even doubled, tripled my goals.
   
   
   What never changes during all 3 of these different situations, is how I show up and treat myself.
   I could have had the best day in terms of financial gain in the whole year, and I may still be feeling low.
   Equally, I could have had the worst day in the history of camming, but I’m jumping around in my bedroom singing to Ariana Grande full pelt – I’m sorry neighbours!
   
   
   Remember:
   
   You are NOT your financial goals.
   You are NOT a “bad” model because it was quiet.
   You are NOT “falling behind” because your statistics are down.
   
   
   You ARE allowed to exist without proving your value to anybody – especially yourself.
   
   
   
   
3. Rest isn’t a luxury – It’s a requirement
   
   As humans we have a tendency to work, work, work until we drop. Waiting for that perfect week that you get to spend away in the sunshine, sipping a cold cocktails and smelling the fresh sea breeze.
   If you’re anything like me, guilt is a feeling that comes up if I ever take time off that’s not a planned holiday.
   That voice that whispers “you’re being lazy” when you even try to just breathe.
   
   
   Let me tell you this: burnout doesn’t make you weak. Ignoring it does.
   
   
   Create that space that you need before you get to your breaking point.
   If you aren’t aware of where your breaking point is, that’s totally normal. The best way to find that point, is to ask yourself this one question daily:
   
   “Am I present today?”
   
   
   Being present and intentional with our day ensures that we aren’t falling into the autopilot trap, causing us to push ourselves beyond our reach.
   If you’re not present? Take that time you need as soon as you can.
   
   
   Even if it’s just a day. Even if it’s messy. Even if you have to fight off guilt while doing it.
   Rest is part of the job.

💜Stay tuned for part 2!

In the next post, I’ll share more of what’s helped me stay Fierce – including how to deal with online negativity, how to treat camming like a real business, and how to truly connect with your “why” when you feel lost.

Until then, be kind to yourself.
You’re already doing more than enough!